Recovering From Infidelity: How Therapy Helps
A Santa Rosa couples therapist on the impact of infidelity and how affair recovery works: rebuilding trust, safety, and honest connection after betrayal.
Couples Therapy
Reflections on the work of being a couple: communication, conflict, repair, and the quiet ways connection frays and finds its way back. Written from my practice as a licensed marriage and family therapist in Santa Rosa.
Understanding Codependency in Relationships
A Santa Rosa therapist on codependency (the popular term for losing yourself in caretaking): its roots, signs, and rebuilding a sturdier sense of self.
When to Consider Couples Therapy: Signs to Watch For
A Santa Rosa couples therapist on signs it may be time for couples therapy, from stuck arguments to quiet distance, and why sooner is easier than later.
Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
A Santa Rosa therapist on recognizing emotional abuse (control, gaslighting, and love bombing), how it differs from conflict, and where to find help.
How Individual Therapy Strengthens Your Relationship
A Santa Rosa therapist on how your own individual therapy can transform your relationship by working the patterns, history, and reactions you bring to it.
Communication in Healthy Relationships
A Santa Rosa couples therapist on communication skills that keep relationships strong (listening, soft start-ups, bids, and repair) and how to build them.
Coping With Chronic Illness in Your Relationship
A Santa Rosa couples therapist on the emotional and relational side of chronic illness: shifting roles, grief, connection, and caring for the caregiver.
Childhood Trauma and Adult Relationships
A Santa Rosa therapist on how childhood trauma shapes adult relationships (attachment, trust, and conflict) and the paths toward healing in Sonoma County.
How to Apologize: A Four-Step Repair
A Santa Rosa couples therapist on how to apologize so it actually lands: four steps to repair after you have hurt someone you love, without defensiveness.
Setting and Respecting Boundaries in a Relationship
A Santa Rosa couples therapist on setting and respecting boundaries: how to name your needs, say no with care, and stay close without losing yourself.